Sunday, November 7, 2010

Adoption Update

NOVEMBER:
National Adoption Month

National Adoption Month is all about spreading awareness of the incredible world of adoption. 19,430 children in Utah are adopted - about 2.9%! Of women age 15-44 who experience an unplanned pregnancy...

12% will marry and parent the child

37% will be single parents

50% will miscarry or abort the child

and ONLY

1% will place the child for adoption

When trying to think of an eloquent message to share regarding my feelings of birth parents, I came across a song written by Michael McLean that sums up perfectly what I wanted to say:

With so many wrong decisions in my past I'm not quite sure
If I can ever hope to trust my judgement anymore
But lately I've been thinking 'cause it's all I've had to do
And in my heart I feel that I should give this child to you

And maybe you can tell your baby
When you love him so, that he was loved before
By someone who delivered your son
From God's arms to my arms to yours

Now if you choose to tell him, or if he wants to know
How the one who gave him life could bear to let him go
Just tell him there were sleepless nights I prayed and paced the floors
And knew the only peace I'd find is if this child was yours

And maybe you can tell your baby
When you love him so, that he was loved before
By someone who delivered your son
From God's arms to my arms to yours


Now I Know you don't have to do this
But could you kiss him once for me
The first time that he ties his shoes
Or falls and skins his knee

And could you hold him twice as long
When he makes his mistakes
And tell him that he's not alone
Sometimes that's all it takes
I know how much he'll ache

Well this may not be the answer
For another girl like me
And I'm not on a soapbox saying
How we all should be
I'm just trusting in my feelings
And I'm trusting God above
And I'm trusting you can give this baby
Both his mothers' love

And maybe you can tell your baby
When you love him so, that he was loved before
By someone who delivered your precious one
From God's arms to my arms to yours

As an introduction to this song Michael McLean writes: "When you think about it, adoption is as much a miracle as birth itself. Maybe more so, when you consider that for everyone involved it starts from a place of impossible choices: nearly unbearable fear, haunting doubts, interspersed with glimpses of hope brought into partial focus only when seen through the lens of unselfishness. And at the moment of heartbreaking courage, when a selfless choice is made, there are absolutely no guarantees... well, maybe one: that every conceivable outcome of the journey had been imagined in sleepless nights and endless days. Still, in spite of all who would say it's beyond possibility that hope or peace or joy could be found, it is!"


Adoption truly is the most selfless gift! We're grateful for all of the birth mother's out there and for their incredible sacrifice!

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