Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Pass Along Cards

We just got our new pass along cards in the mail and we are totally in love with them! Thanks to some amazing local businesses and our awesome friends, we've passed out over 2500 cards in only 6 months! Woot, woot! We enlisted the help of a super talented graphic designer (shout out to Charlotte!) to create a new look for our cards and they turned out fabulous!



For those of our blog readers that aren't familiar with adoption pass along cards, we'll explain what they're all about. Networking during our adoption process is MAJOR! We've met several adorable couples that have been waiting to be chosen by a birthmother for several years. Our caseworker has encouraged us to spread the word (or send out a herald in our case) so that others may know of our desire to adopt.

The idea behind these cards is to get as many out there circulating as possible in hopes that they'll one day land in hands of someone, who knows someone, who knows someone (etc), who is thinking of placing their child for adoption. Because birthparents get to choose the adoptive couple, the waiting period can be really daunting. One of the first questions that we asked our caseworker was what the average waiting time was. She explained that there is not an accurate way of calculating that number for us. Every birthparent is different, just as every adoptive couple is different. What one birthparent may be looking for, another may want something completely opposite. Some couples are chosen within a few months, some after a few years. Some have waited over 5 years and others are not ever chosen. As an adoptive couple, the idea of waiting another 6 months is kinda depressing... I can't even imagine what it will be like if we still haven't been chosen in a few years!

In the spirit of being proactive with our desire to adopt, we've been trying every outlet that we can think of to help spread the word. Pass along cards are one of these tools! We've heard stories from other adoptive couples that their child's birthmother found them through a family friend, or their home teacher's cousin, or a former neighbor, etc. The point is that you just never know when you pass out one of these cards... it may just land in a garbage can somewhere, or maybe (fingers crossed) it will one day land in the right hands!

Some of the ways that we spread these cards around: Whenever we eat out, we leave a card with our restaurant bill. When paying bills, we toss one in the envelope. When we see a fishbowl at a business that says "drop your card in to win a free lunch"... guess what? We drop one in! We've tacked them up on community boards and handed them out whenever somebody asks us about adoption. Our favorite method of all - some awesome local businesses have put stacks of our cards out on their counters for customers to take.

James and I both feel strongly that the more involved we are in our own adoption process, the better our experience will be. We've been actively involved in the adoption community here in Utah and have met a bunch of incredible birthparents. With each new personal story that we hear, we learn so much about ourselves and about the kind of relationship that we want to have with our child's birthparents. Adoption really is an amazing thing and we're so excited to be able to bring our sweet pea home one day!

So... we just got a fresh batch of pass along cards delivered and if anyone out there wants to help us get them out there, we'll gladly give ya a bundle!

Friday, March 25, 2011


My sweet friend Jenn named me "Mom of the Month" on her blog! I feel super honored that she would think of me for that title! She is an AMAZING mother herself and an awesome advocate for foster care and adoption. I feel super blessed to have met her a few months ago and I know I'll rely on her for tons of advice when we are finally blessed with our sweet pea! She sent me this cute button (below) that you can click on to view the super sweet spotlight that she did for me! Love ya Jenn!!!

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Dear Sweet Pea:

I can't wait to one day bring you home and become a forever family. As I daydream of what our life will be like together, I can't help but imagine all of the special moments that we are sure to have.

I can't wait to hold you in my arms for the first time.
I can't wait for our home to be filled with the sound of your unique cry.
I can't wait to rock you to sleep.
I can't wait to see your daddy snuggle with you.
I can't wait to watch you learn how to crawl.
I can't wait for you to learn how to say "mama."
I can't wait for the day that you take your first step.
I can't wait to put a band-aid on your first owie.
I can't wait for daddy to teach you how to ride a bike.
I can't wait to see you wear a backpack on your first day of school.
I can't wait to teach you right from wrong.
I can't wait to watch you learn & grow to become the person that you're meant to be.

I want you to know, my sweet pea, that you will be coming to our home in a very special way. You will be loved more than most babies because you will have two mommies - me and the special mommy that brought you here to earth. She loves you more than you could possibly know and she wants you to have the best life possible. I can't wait for the day that we'll get to meet your special mommy and she'll tell us that she wants us to be your parents.

My first gift to you is your very own room, designed with only you in my heart. I'm so excited for the day that we get to bring you home from the hospital and lay you in your crib for the first time. I love you, my sweet pea!


Saturday, March 12, 2011

Photo Shoot

It's been almost 6 months since we were approved for our adoption so we felt it was time to jazz up our profile with some new pics!

As you can tell, we had a blast at the photography studio! We used Fotofly again and they are AMAZING! A special shout-out to our photographer Daniel - you are awesome!!!

Friday, March 11, 2011

Hoping To Adopt

We now have our adoption profile listed on an amazing website called! If you look to our sidebar, you'll see a button that you can click on to visit our new profile. If you'd like to help us spread the word that we are adopting, we'd love it if you would "grab" our button and add it to your blog. The HTML script is listed below the button. Thanks to all of our amazing friends and family for helping us spread the word that we're hoping to adopt and we can't wait for a little one to find their way home to us!
***Thanks to for helping us to advocate for our adoption - you guys rock!!!

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Discount Tuesdays!

We've started a new tradition this year to go to the movies with Heather's brother Chris and his wife Karen. Some of the local theatres have started something called Discount Tuesdays where they only charge the matinee ticket price for movies all night long. We haven't missed a single Tuesday movie night since the year began and we're having a blast seeing all of the latest movies for super cheap!

Sunday, March 6, 2011

One Year Ago

One year ago, my life changed.

One year ago, my mom passed sweetly from this world to a much better place. As Heather and I said our goodbyes, we asked her to help send a baby on its way to our family.

One year ago, Heather and I had not even discussed adoption.

One year ago, our friends were able to adopt a beautiful baby girl. We went over to congratulate them and held precious little Addison.

One year ago, my life changed.

One year ago, Heather and I came home from our friends' house, looked at each other and knew that it was time for us to start the adoption process. We have now been approved for 5 1/2 months, and still look forward for the baby that my mom is helping to prepare to come to our family.

Although we are not able to share the excitement with my mom that we are hoping to adopt, I know that she is very excited for Heather and I. I am so forever grateful for my mom and for her amazing example. I love and miss my mommy.

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Family Pictures

Our latest picture with Heather's family!
(Thanks Joce for suggesting Fotofly - they are awesome!)